Monday, May 10, 2010

Children Can Give Us Purpose and Direction

Before getting pregnant and having my daughter Sarah, I often told my husband how I looked forward to what parenting could provide for me, including a sense of self and new purpose. At the time this made perfect sense, wanting to feel value in something more than me and that I could put much of my attention towards.

Now, many years later, and the mother of a toddler, I have realized that my daughter has given me a gift much greater than the love I anticipated from her arrival but also with new reason and direction for myself that was unexpected.

Being a parent is by far one of the toughest jobs I have ever experienced. And, being a full-time working mom adds even more to this juggling act. Thus, with Sarah’s health and well-being at the center of it all it took me time to realize the possibility of much more for myself when my plate was already so very full.

In July 2009 after trying to move a chair from my living room to another room, on my own, after Sarah climbed on it one too many times, my life was indeed forever changed. I know this sounds ridiculous. After dropping this very large chair on my foot and thankfully not breaking my foot, I did; however, endure a really bad sprain that led me to rely on crutches for a couple of weeks with much rest in between.

During this time I had to stay as much off my foot and spent much of this time on the couch working on my laptop, and discovering another new journey I was about to explore that was completely unknown to me.

Despite not being able to get to my front door without my crutches, this journey would take me farther than I would have imagined many more feet away from what I thought could be possible.

After Sarah was born during the winter season, I spent much of my time indoors with her during the early part of my maternity leave on the Internet reviewing parenting blogs, researching parenting topics, buying online, etc. It was too cold to take Sarah outside. So, while she slept much during the day I spent a fair bit of time educating myself on what was being communicated online.

As a result, a new idea and vision for the future was established. It wasn’t; however, until July 2009, well over a year after Sarah’s birth, that I was able to make this goal a reality. With a great interest and desire to write, and help from my husband, an amazing technology expert, my blog Mommy’s Point of View (www.mommyspointofview.com) came to life.

In addition to continuing my full-time career in addition to parenting, it was then that I began to chronicle my life as a mom, for fun and in my spare time, sharing parenting tips, advice, ideas, woes and more, to moms all over the world. My goal was to get started and to see how it would go. And off it went.

This blog has been an extraordinary experience into a world of the unknown. It’s been cathartic, self-deprecating and rewarding all at the same time given me strength in ways I didn’t necessarily know I had both personally and professionally.

Most parents would say that having their children is life-changing. This is indeed very true of my experience as well. Further, the birth of my daughter also brought an incredible opportunity of growth for me, one that I didn’t see at first and one that has enabled me to explore unchartered territory.

Being at the helm of Mommy’s Point of View, breathing life into something unfamiliar, fun, exhilarating and experimental has enabled me to see myself in ways I didn’t before, be honest with who I am as a person and especially as a parent. Sometimes I get it right. Sometimes I don’t. Sarah’s role in my life has been two-fold. She has changed me forever because she is my child and I will do for her in ways that any good parent would. Her presence in my life has also empowered me to find a new voice and ways to use it to help others, while also helping myself.

Becoming a mother has been one of the most amazing experiences of my life. My journey as a blogger, and hopefully future writer, is a dream and one I am thrilled to be embarking upon and parlaying my professional knowledge and expertise with my novice experience as a parent.

My life has been transformed since having Sarah. Not only has she given me new purpose but she has helped me to find new direction for myself as well. My message here to you is recognize not only the beauty in what life brings us with our children but also the paths we may walk, crawl and climb to new discovery thanks to their role in our lives. Like our children, as mothers and adults, we too need to continue to learn and grow and thrive.

I thank my daughter for this incredible life lesson and opportunity, and for this new voice she has helped me to find. I just hope that I am able to be the parent she needs and to help her on her life’s journeys including the good and bad, and be there to support her, as best as I can, every step of the way.

4 comments:

  1. I found you on Twitter Moms and I enjoyed reading your post. I must agree, my kids have helped me find a new purpose in my life as well. I really love being a mom. Visit my site at http://cleverlychanging.com

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  2. Thank you Elle. I look forward to checking out your blog as well. Thanks for coming on by and visiting at Mommy's Point of View. Glad to hear that you have a similiar experience as well. :)

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  3. Hi Caren,
    I loved reading your post. If you would like to post on our website under "share stories" in the blogging section, I'm sure that our readers would like to hear your voice on parenting.
    Alison Co-Founder ECHOage.com

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  4. Alison -- I would be honored to contribute content to your blog. And, I welcome for you to share on my site as well. Feel free to send me a few of your stories generating and I can look to include them here on Mommy's Point of View to further share a good message and spread the reach.

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